I have been thinking a lot lately about how I really want to start a book club. It shouldn’t be too hard, right? A couple of friends, some book suggestions, a calendar, some appetizers, maybe a bottle of wine and an awesome book discussion once a month. The part of that simple equation that’s missing: the members. And as my husband so eloquently put it awhile back: a book club without members is just called reading. Thanks, babe 😉
For the first time since my parents uprooted me from my tight-knit-middle-school-group to move me to Illinois when I was entering 8th grade (it was just as tragic as it sounds) I have found myself lately lacking in the friends department. Now before you start feeling too sorry for me, let me explain.
I played basketball in high school: a team of 12 other girls became my instant friends. I went out-of-state to college where I did not know a soul: a residence hall floor of 42 women became my instant friends. I went to graduate school in the middle of nowhere: a cohort of 22 colleagues became my friends. I did not have to try that hard in any of those instances. Friends were a part of the transition. I was not the only one feeling new. I was not the only new girl.
And then college and grad school ended. I got married. I moved to a new place. I started a new job. I started another new job. And now I have no one to start a book club with.
The good thing about this rather sad realization is that now I can work on building relationships that are meaningful to me, not relationships just based on convenience or proximity. I can work on healthy friendships that help me to grow, learn, and support. I have been blessed with amazing friends in my life both near and far and I am learning what it means to be a good “long distance friend” as well as how to put myself out there to making new ones.
One of these weeks, I’m going to organize some sort of book club – maybe virtual, maybe not. Oh, and if I ask you to join, please don’t turn me down. Because, after all, a book club without members is just called reading. 😉