1. MARRIAGE IS AWESOME.
Not that I thought it wouldn’t be, but being married to Colin is super awesome. Living together, getting to hang out, not having to drive two hours to be together… all still feels too good to be true! I’m not sure it’s even hit me yet! I’m so thankful.
2. Pet Peeves Turned To Habits.
When we moved in together I asked Colin to pleas shut the cupboards once he was done in them – I was worried I was going to hit my head on an open cupboard. He has done a great job closing them but I’ve been the one leaving them open all over the place. The things that I thought were going to bother me, I have ended up doing myself. Ha. I’m learning to not be so stuck in my ways and to give a little bit.
3. Kindness Matters.
Brian, during our ceremony, reminded us that being kind to one another is one of the most important pieces of advice he ever received and wanted to pass it along to us. I try to remember to remind myself everyday to above all, be kind.
4. Best Friend.
Colin is absolutely my best friend but I do not think that I knew what that meant until we were married and sharing everything together. He is the person always pulling for me and cheering me on. He believes in me when I don’t believe in myself and he is the person that I have the most fun with!
5. Healthy Lifestyle.
Colin is my partner in living a long, healthy life together. I have learned that marriage is about making healthy choices together so that we can have the most years that we can together. It is easier to stay fit when someone else is encouraging you! There have been many times when I would have skipped a workout but Colin was there, lacing up his shoes and out the door we went! I am so thankful for that.
6. Sharing Space.
I have learned that sharing a space with a partner is humbling. I am a control freak. I like things a certain way. Colin helps me to remember the big picture and not to get hung up on the little things, like if the pillows on the couch are perfect. Life is messy and sometimes our apartment is too. I’m starting to learn to love the imperfections.
7. My Biggest Fan.
Letting Colin be my biggest fan is hard for me. I’m good at cheering others on but not as good at letting others be there for me. I’m learning what it means to have someone in your corner believing in you. It’s pretty wonderful.
8. Full Length Mirror
Being married is like looking into a full length mirror all of the time. Colin gets all of me: my irrational sides, my dramatic tendencies, my meltdowns, my crazy – and he loves me just the same. Marriage is teaching me about letting someone love all the sides of you.
9. All About Love.
A faculty member in the Western Illinois University College Student Personnel program said this in Theory 2 class one day, “It’s simple really. It’s so simple that we’ve made it complicated. It’s all about love” (J. Q. Adams, personal communication, October 7, 2013). This is what marriage is all about, love and partnership. I’m known for making things more complicated then they need to be. I’m learning it’s all about love.
10. Happily Ever After.
Happily ever after means working each day to be the best partner that we can be for one another. I’ve been learning that this takes work and patience but that it is a dream come true to be starting our life journey together.
11. Oxygen Mask.
Colin reminds me that you have to put on your own oxygen mask before you can help another. In marriage, being a good partner to him sometimes means putting myself first. I’m still getting better at this.
12. We Aren’t Alone.
The advice, support, and love of our family and friends has been overwhelming. In our marriage we are lucky to have so many awesome role-model-marriages out there guiding us. So, thank you. I’ve learned that we aren’t alone.